Sunday, November 3, 2013

How to juggle life and still follow your dream

If I were to tell you about my life, you would get tired, I do.                                But I wouldn't change a thing.

I have a very busy day job which takes up about 9 hours of my day. On top of that I have many four legged children that demand feeding, and a lot of love every day. If that wasn't enough I have a husband, of 29 years I add, that insists on eating breakfast together and eating a home cooked meal every night together. I also have 5 children, they're grown , and on their own, but they still call, stop in, and need TLC quite often, and that I love.
So lets put this into perspective. I get up at 6am so I can feed my babies, 4 legged ones, then I get ready for work, wake my husband and eat with him then I go to work. I am in a dark room from eight to five. I am an ultrasound tech for a group of Cardiologists and we scan with the lights down low. Makes me crave sunshine.  
Then I'm home by 6, feed the little ones that need fed twice a day, throw in a little love for them then cook dinner so its ready when my husband gets home at 7. (sounds so 1950's) You won't find me in a dress and pearls when he walks through the door. I'm normally in my sweats and t-shirt by that time. I know, so romantic.  Haha
Now after dinner and dishes its about 8:30. Are you tired yet? The best is yet to come.
                                I had a dream. 
             I know, what a cliche', but that's how it happened.


I had a dream, and wanted to become a writer. So every night I wrote. I would start about 9 and write until my eyes closed. My characters would wake me in the middle of the night if they wanted a scene change, and from then on my extra time was spent with my stories. 
Sounds very do-able, right? The only thing missing was time for laundry, cleaning, yard work, and free time. I squeezed all that in on the weekends in between my writing. 
So now your wondering, whats the big problem? Sounds like everything works. Well in April of this year I became my sisters caretaker. She has MS and couldn't live on her own anymore.

            I just love her and would do anything for her.
Now here comes the how to juggle life to still follow your dream.
With my sister my schedule took a drastic change. I know get up earlier because I help her get dressed in the morning. I come home at lunch to make sure she doesn't need anything, then at night I help her after dinner get cleaned up and ready for bed. So my writing time was drastically cut.
I knew I wanted to improve my craft, and put out more than one book, so I had to get creative. I had to juggle my schedule so I could keep my family happy and still be able to work towards my dream. 
I now get up at 5, check e-mails and blogs for 30 minutes. I then do my regular morning duties. I try and squeeze writing in at work, and at lunch when my sister is eating. After work I feed, cook, greet husband, family eats, cleans kitchen, gets sister set for the night, then it's about 9:30 or 10. I spend a few minutes checking my e-mails, (which I stay very behind in) then I write, until my eyes drift closed, which is usually about midnight.
So there you have it. The trick to juggling life, and a dream, is a strict schedule.  And a big bottle of wine.  : )

So now you know how I get to live my dream. 
How do you manage to  fit what you love in your life?
Oh, did I mention that I'm doing Nano this month also. I know, what a glutton for punishment.

Thanks for stopping by.
Until next time
Lynda
www.lyndakayefrazier.com

4 comments:

  1. You are an inspiration. BIG HUGS. I am the same way. All housecleaning and stuff gets pushed to the weekend. My hubby and daughter are more important. Then writing... then maybe the house. It's not like it's going anywhere, lol. The laundry and dishes will still be there when I'm ready to do them. Good luck on NANO! You are braver than me!

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    1. Thanks for stopping by Krystal. Family always comes first, then house work. But there are days I sure wished I had a maid. : ) I think we all struggle to reach our goal. We jsut need to keep writing, who knows, one of us just might have the next Harry Potter, or Fifty Shades of Gray.
      Lynda

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  2. Thank you for this post! I've deeply struggled with my lack of progress in my writing while juggling a full time job, family with 2 kids, house, trying to stay healthy, etc. I have a lot of help but still seem to stay behind.
    You're right! A schedule is one of the few things that's helped me. Accountability with my writing and exercise helps too. Its frustrating, but I try to use what little time I have at my day job to wrangle plot bunnies or jot down notes about blogs or schedules. Then I tell myself that time is not totally lost to my writing and I'm supporting my family in a big way with the day job paycheck.
    Thank you for letting me know I'm not alone, that there are others who struggle with the same issues and even less time than I have. Good luck with your NaNo writing!

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    1. Life is such a struggle especially when we try and work in two full time jobs, and I do see my writing as a full time job. Then you add a house, family and just everyday stuff and it can be a lot to handle. I think you're doing a great job. I'm happy with myself if I get a few thoughts down each day. I use to struggle with a word count, but now I don't sweat it so much. If I get a chance to write, I'm happy.
      Thanks for stopping by and don't give up. You're not alone in your struggles.
      Lynda

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