Monday, May 5, 2014

BDSM Misconception #1

I was having a discussion with someone the other day, and the topic of BDSM came up and misconceptions people on the outside have, and sometimes on the inside.
A lot of people equate BDSM to abuse.
There is one word which places these two practices on opposite sides of the spectrum.
CONSENT
If two or more consenting adults agree to a scene, or a dynamic or a relationship what happens inside that relationship is consensual.
That one aspect changes it from abuse.
You may not understand it, but that doesn't make it any less valid.
It's no different than a couple who cuddles every night before they fall asleep.
It's just a VERY different form of cuddling.
It might not be for you, for the people on the inside of that bubble want it, some might even need it.
The same misconceptions can happen even on the inside.
People fully involved in the lifestyle can make judgments on others involved in a scene. Most scenes are fully negotiated for before, during and after a scene.
It's just one more case of letting people have their own space and NOT JUDGING!
:)

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1 comment:

  1. People often judge that which they do not understand. Either out of fear or ignorance or both. What people do behind closed doors is none of my business. I commend you for being honest and forthright. Not everyone does that. :D

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